During the holiday season we all tend to reflect a bit more.
We think a lot about all the things for which we are grateful.
In today’s post Coach Glenn and I want to let you know why we are grateful for football and what it has meant to us.
Why Coach Glenn is Grateful for Football
In college I had an awesome head coach (Dave McClain) that taught me a lot of lessons in my 3 years with him prior to his untimely and unfortunate passing.
He said “men, life is a lot like football. The lessons we learn on the field can be directly related to real life challenges in our careers and in our family lives.”
At the time much went in one ear and out the other. And when my career ended abruptly I had a real bad taste in my mouth when it came to football.
I ended up getting into coaching shortly after I left playing and I found myself angry and riding the players I coached way too hard.
I left the game for a while. In that time I did some self searching and found many of the lessons I learned on the field start to come to fruition in my personal life.
The past decade I have had a lot of personal turmoil go on in my life.
My anger and bad feelings regarding football have subsided and partly because of football my attitude has turned more to gratitude.
Today I realize how much I actually have learned and gained from football.
I know the anger and issues were more about my personal failures and had nothing to do with the great game of football!
As Christmas is approaching and our Trench Training community is becoming a reality for me, along with my coaching experiences, I am so so grateful for this game.
And the coaches teammates and players I have had the pleasure of coaching are very important to me today.
Tony Robbins talks a lot about daily gratitude being the one thing that can ultimately change our entire lives and I believe that now having done this and seen how my life has changed.
Being a father has also revealed to me, many times, the lessons popping up that I learned playing and coaching.
I wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and hope that you all find the gratitude inside you that the Christmas season can reveal.
Why Coach Steve is Grateful for Football
Football has taught me so many lessons and I am grateful for all of them.
Respect, sportsmanship, hard work, discipline, self-confidence and teamwork to name just a few.
There is, however, one lesson from playing and coaching football that has served me above all others in my life.
It’s not something I ever really thought about while I was playing football.
I didn’t truly realize the importance until I became a dad.
My wife and I have 4 amazing children.
Our oldest son Kaden is 11 years old and when he was 2, he was diagnosed with a very rare, very serious disease.
Nothing prepares you for hearing this.
Nothing hurts more than seeing your child in pain.
There have been times when I felt like I just couldn’t handle everything that goes with caring for Kaden.
I still feel that way at times.
But there is no giving up.
Just like there was no quitting on my team, there is no quitting on my family.
We have to persevere.
We have to keep going no matter what stands in our way.
Our family has learned over the last 9 years to cherish every moment together.
We are never afraid to do anything because we know how to persevere.
I feel the same way about our Trench Training program.
This community is growing slowly but it is growing with a strong foundation.
That’s how I know it will persevere.
I feel extremely grateful for the life I have had to this point and football has played such a huge role in my success.
I’m so excited to see what the future brings with Trench Training.
We are Playing BIG!
Have a safe and happy holiday. We are incredibly grateful for all of you being a part or our Trench Training family.
The little things don’t matter.
Does it really matter if my stance is perfectly balanced?
Do I really need to get my hands on that exact spot for my block?
Does my first step really have to be 4 inches?
What’s the big deal?
These are such little things that can’t matter that much, right?
The little things generally make the difference between average players and good players.
The little things always make the difference between good players and great players.
One thing I realized very quickly in college was that I was not as strong as most of the guys I played with.
I was never going to win a starting job with brute force on the o-line at Wisconsin.
It had to be done with technique.
Luckily for me, my position coach Bill Callahan was obsessed technique.
The little things meant everything to Coach Callahan.
That was my in…
He was the toughest coach I ever had but because of him, I was able to play at a very high level.
Do you think the little things mean much to me?
They mean everything!
And if you want to reach your potential they should mean everything to you too.
So how do you start taking advantage of doing all the little things?
Pay attention to the details.
In order to do the little things right, you have to know what the right little things are.
To do that you have to pay attention to the details.
You have to LISTEN and LEARN!
When you’re at practice you need to focus on the details.
There is no close.
There is no almost.
It is or it isn’t.
You need to know exactly, to the inch, how take your steps.
How to punch that 6 inch landmark.
How to perfectly balance your stance.
Every little detail.
That’s how you continue to improve your game.
One little thing at a time.
Learn to be disciplined.
“Shined shoes save lives.” – General Norm Schwarzkopf
General Schwarzkopf knows that in battle, under extreme pressure, the undisciplined die.
It takes incredible discipline to do the little things right day in and day out.
Many times it’s the things that no one knows you do.
Only you know.
Only you will ever know.
Doing the little things right when no one else is watching.
Learn that skill and you will always succeed.
Form habits to succeed.
Once you know the details and you learn discipline, you have the recipe to form winning habits.
Successful people get up before everyone else.
They don’t watch 6 shows every week.
They don’t play 3 hours of video games every night.
Successful people only allow themselves to form habits that help them win.
I believe you can from a new habit in 30 days.
In just 30 days you can create habits that can make you successful.
What habits will you form?
Will they move you closer to your goals?
Or will they move you farther away from your goals?
The choice is yours.
Use your attention to details and your discipline and form habits that win.
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Peer pressure in teens today I think can better be described as peer influence.
It’s less about being pressured to something against your will.
I believe kids are stronger willed today than ever before and have much more information to draw from when making choices.
Peer pressure is more about being influenced by the actions or words of your peers.
What is Mary wearing to school?
What kind of phone does Jimmy have?
Where does the star quarterback hangout on the weekend?
Does cool guy Brady drink alcohol and do drugs?
While I’m sure there is some “pressuring” regarding these things, I think the it’s more about the influence of seeing others taking these actions.
Parents Dealing with Peer Pressure in Teens
Stay up with your child’s life.
Be involved in what they are interested in.
Keep talking to your teenager.
Even if they seem disinterested in talking to you, they like that you are interested in them.
They need feel comfortable speaking to you.
Give your child a way out.
Let you child know that they can call you when they are in a difficult peer pressure situation.
They need to know that you are not going to blow up at them for being in that situation.
You have to be there for them without the immediate judgement or reaction.
Let them know that you are there for them no matter what and it’s okay to call or text if they are uncomfortable.
Build their self esteem.
Part of becoming an independent person is having a belief in yourself.
As parents, we can do so much to instill self esteem.
It starts with a positive message to our kids.
Help your child set goals and make sure they are realistic and attainable.
They need to know that they can accomplish their goals.
Celebrate their successes and continue to encourage them when they fail.
Failure is necessary for growth and overcoming failure is the fastest way to build self esteem.
Encourage a wider base of friends.
Friendships sometimes go bad.
Hurt feelings happen often in the teen years.
That’s why it’s good to make friends in different areas of your life.
School, neighbors, activities and sports are all great sources of friendships.
It’s good to be plugged into a couple groups of friends that can offer support.
How Teens Can Deal with Peer Pressure
Get away from the pressure.
You need to be okay walking away from a situation that is uncomfortable.
Walk away and don’t allow someone to apply peer pressure.
It’s not easy but it’s your best option in a difficult situation.
Use the buddy system.
It’s great to say, “just walk away”.
It’s another thing to actually do it.
Having someone by your side to support your decisions can make walking away infinitely easier.
Find a friend that shares your values and beliefs.
Back each other up and it will be far easier to walk away from a difficult situation with that friend by your side.
Seek out positive role models.
What qualities make a person great?
To find out we have to look at great people.
Who do you want to be?
Who is that you can look at and say, “those are the qualities and traits that I want to emmulate”?
Seek those people out and figure out what makes them successful.
Just be careful that you choose wisely.
Emulating the wrong characteristics will land you somewhere you don’t want to be.
Not everyone’s doing it.
Never fall for the line, “It’s okay. Everyone’s doing it.”
Don’t pressure others.
You don’t want to be pressured into things so don’t do it to others.
Set a positive example.
Be the person you wish others would be.
Find new friends.
Jim Rohn said it best.
If you don’t like the person you are then you need to take a hard look at those you hang out with.
Peer pressure in teens is happening every day.
The influence is subtle and compounds over time.
Sometimes we don’t even see it.
Our behaviors, our attitudes towards others, the way we walk, the way we dress and even the way we talk are influenced by our environment.
Be sure that you keep the right people around you.
Not all peer pressure is bad.
Certainly, if we choose the right people to have around us we can be influenced in a positive.
Choose wisely and become the best version of YOU.
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